1.07.2023

the four seasons

 

Happy New Year, my friends!
I'm starting this new year off with something completely different...

While going through my saved files recently, I stumbled across a piece of my own writing that I had forgotten all about. Written over two decades ago, it speaks to me as much now as when I wrote it - and I can vividly remember where I was sitting when I first put my thoughts into words. Reading it again now brings back the joy and wonder of that day, the beauty of my surroundings, and the clear understanding of where I was in life to have penned these words on a day that dawned cool and crisp, letting me know that Summer had fled overnight... something I wasn't really happy about.

Because my poem* is about how I see the four seasons, I thought I'd share it here.

"It’s not that I don’t like Autumn. I do

Autumn is a gorgeous redhead, her long glorious russet tresses blowing in the wind. Her amber eyes reflect the late afternoon sun, and glow with the depth of flames in a fire at days’ end. She tantalizes me with the scent of fresh rain on fallen leaves. She wakes me up to see the golden glow of a misty morning, when the sun sneaks along behind the fog. She tempts me on chilly mornings with a whispered promise of warm afternoons that melt into cool dusks and starry skies.

I just wasn’t ready for Summer to go yet.

Summer is a caramel blonde, drifting on a soft breeze… warm and sunny, filled with energy, playful and distracting. She coaxed me into hours of lying or sitting on the beach, telling me it was OK to write articles with my toes in the sand or research projects while sitting on my porch swing. She crafted a careful romance with her 5 AM sunrises, bringing me sunbeams that stole into my window and landed on my cheek to awaken me along with the birds singing in the trees. She filled my days with brilliance and warmth, and ended them with orange sherbet-colored sunsets at 11 PM, wrapping me in her embrace.

One day she was here, and the next….. just a whisper.


Spring is Summer's elder sister, arriving to the party first - with a sunny smile and armloads of blooming golden daffodils. Her hair is marigold strawberry blonde and bounces around her face like tall grass in the breeze. Her chartreuse green eyes sparkle with elfin glee, her cheeks are like pink roses, and her laugh is a windchime. If a sudden shower begins, she tilts her head back, looks up into the sky, and twirls in circles as the rain falls onto her as she breathes in the glorious scent of petrichor. She tugs at my hand and gleefully urges 'Let's go play outside in the garden!', and as we step into the yard, butterflies and birds begin to flutter and sing in welcome. She only leaves after she has heralded her sisters' arrival with a glorious profusion of fragrant blooms in the garden, the perfect perfume.

They are my friends, the Seasons, and since I only get to see them once a year, I like to spend as much time with each one as I can. Time seems to fly so quickly, though, and we never really finish our visits before each needs to take her leave.

Except Winter.


She always shows up earlier than invited and overstays her welcome. She's an old woman with scraggly long gray hair and bland, disheveled clothes who has no where else to go. She's cold and distant and inhospitable. I really dread her visits because it's just hard to connect with her - maybe that's why Autumn's arrival gives me pause. I just know that Winter will come knocking next...."

As I have aged, moving through the Autumn of my middle-age life toward the Winter of my elderly years, my perspective has changed. My understanding of Winter has grown, and now I can embrace the lessons that she comes to teach us.

So I re-wrote the last part:

"and then there's Winter...


She is clad in subtle tones - soft grays, whites, deep charcoals.
Her burgeoning silver hair roils in the wind like storm swells in the sea, all motion and fury. The song she sings is mournful, soft, a long-lost lullaby to nature that sends it off to sleep. Her eyes glow a deep amber gold, the lone touch of warmth in her presence that holds the promise of a sunrise to come.

Hiding in the background as Autumn frolics, peering around corners and through leafy bowers, watching all the action, she waits for her moment to enter the scene. When Autumn finally spins away in a wind that erases all of the color from the world, Winter steps out of her hiding place, stands in the bleakness, and opens her arms wide. She spreads her cloak, covering the Earth and my moods in a thick gray blanket that sheds fluttering white snowflakes. Her power transforms landscapes into dreamy otherworlds and conceals what life still remains beneath the surface.

Winter knows she is necessary... unloved, tolerated, unwelcome... but necessary. Earth cannot survive without her, Nature cannot continue her journey without her. The other Seasons cannot arrive until her work is complete. And so she stays, often longer than planned, until it is done.

And then, she hides herself away as the party begins again." 

As this year dawns under winter's embrace, i hope you find wonder and joy in her presence, and that the coming seasons will be welcome on your doorstep...

~ deb

*this poem is my personal creation and property, and is protected by copyright.
please do not copy, share, or republish in any way.

1.31.2016

this is life

... and this, this is the stuff of life...
 
the simultaneous way that grief and joy can exist. the changing emotional landscape echoing the changing beach that is, by turns, pounded furiously and then caressed gently by endless waves. the events of days on end changing our perception, much as the clouds moving across a sky change our view. the ache in our souls thrumming with every beat of our hearts - and even then a memory comes to cause our eyes to light and our mouths to smile in joy. gratitude floods our hearts as memories fill our minds, and it is as if the echoing chambers of our heart begin to play music again, instead of the lonely slow cadence of mourning...

in the midst of my sorrow for my sweet friend and her children and the devastating loss of the man they so loved, days like today bring me proof once again that life is, truly, magical.... it is good, it is bad, it is hard, it is playful, it is everything at once and we can't just write off the good stuff because of the bad stuff, or ignore the blissful moments because we are mired in sorrow. we have to accept it all, together, interlinked, a cohesive whole that drives us onward even at the same time that it shocks us into stillness. we have to live with the knowledge that just because bad does happen, it won't always be bad. and just because good comes our way, it won't always be good - that's just how it is, not reflective of our worth or value to our Creator or of how hard we have worked in life or what a 'good' person we are (or not.) it's just simply life. as my Dad would say, 'it is what it is'.

life, i think, was always intended to be a conundrum for us mere humans - a puzzle we cannot complete, a riddle we cannot solve, a lesson we spend eternity learning. a dichotomy of thought and philosophy and belief and doubt. it's a metaphysical amusement park ride that spins, turns, rolls, jerks, rushes, slows, loops, thrills and scares us as we whiz along at speeds that blur our view. as much as we want it to come to an end and the pre-ride calm to return, we know that when it finally does we will never have the chance to ride it again. and so we learn to enjoy the adventure - whatever comes as we go through it laughing, screaming, crying, and living.

i am grateful for all of the moments that my life have allowed me to experience, to grow, to learn, to become the woman i am still becoming...through both joy and pain. i am grateful for the love and friendship of some very special people along the way, who have lifted me and changed me and taught me, who have allowed me to love them and spend a part of my life with them. and i am grateful that even when sorrow surrounds me, God never fails to show me how miraculous and magical and mystifying life truly is...

we don't always get the dream that our heart wishes for. 
often we get the exact opposite of what we are fervently praying and wishing for. 
and as much as i always try to understand the 'why', to question God's motives and reasons, i have never received an answer... until i realized that there isn't one. we cannot fathom the way life unfolds, none of us. if we saw what was coming in our lifetimes, the combined emotional power of the overwhelming joy and the devastating grief would cause our hearts to stop instantly. we have to take it one day at a time. all of it. 
and i am grateful that some of those days bring joy that overflows my heart.
 

on this day two years ago, my lifelong dream came true when i was hired by the Walt Disney Company. the joy i felt that day was almost too much to contain, and i know how blessed i am to have had a moment like that. many moments like that, actually... the day i was married. the day each of my four newborn babies were placed in my arms. the day that i held each of my four grandchildren for the first time. the day i looked at myself in the mirror and saw a woman i was finally proud to be. the day that i finally heard 'i love you' again from the people i love most. and the day that a voice on the phone said 'you get your dream.' 
 
i may never experience joy like all of those days again... but it's ok. 
i have been blessed beyond measure to have had those days, and they live forever in my memory.

roberto benigni was right... 'life IS beautiful'.
and sometimes, it's even magical.

1.01.2016

#Joyride2016

I just discovered that there have been a LOT of people visiting this blog lately!
Apparently my graphic (above) is very popular on Pinterest,
and it's bringing readers to this post from 2014.
I had no idea!

Honestly, I was just about to click the 'unpublish blog' button because I never post here anymore... 
but if something I shared is providing inspiration to you, I'll leave it up!

So let me just offer a quick update on this New Year's Day:
each New Year, I do the 'One Word 365' thing...
no resolutions, just one word that exemplifies my intentions and focus for the coming year.
2013 was 'Simplify'. 
2014 wasn't 'enthusiasm' as that popular post implied - it was 'Create'.
2015 was 'Peace', and oh, did I need peace....

Truth be told, friends, I am just glad that 2015 is over. Honestly.
It's been a really REALLY hard year, 
which is one reason that I took a sabbatical from blogging here and left my job at Disney.
My Dad was fighting a fierce battle against cancer this time last year, 
and I just wanted to focus on helping him and Mom as much as I could.

I am SO glad that I did that...
as hard as it all was, as much pain and loss and grief and fear that we went through,
my sisters and I helped Mom care for Dad here at home
until he slipped softly into his eternal home on Easter Sunday morning at dawn.
We spent some very special moments with him, 
and have precious memories that will last us a lifetime.
Since we know that Dad is in the presence of his Lord and Savior Jesus in Heaven,
we can rest in our faith that we will see him again one day.
That brings peace like nothing else can!
It's finally time to say goodbye to the pain, the grief, the sadness that have surrounded us.
Mom and I (I live with Mom as her 'Personal Assistant' & companion)
are ready to embrace new lives, new directions, new experiences now.
I am so grateful that I am here, with her, and we are such good companions.
It is a blessing to treasure, and we know that.
God is Good, all the time! 

My Word for 2016 is JOY
My intention is to find joy, to be filled with joy, 
to let joy captivate me, to live and breathe and speak and be joy, 
to shed the sadness and grief that has wrapped me up for four years now 
and just look at life through some rose-gold colored glasses 
and to 'see the joy, be the joy, share the joy'...

When I announced that on facebook,
my friend Barb commented 'yeah! a JOY ride! Let's do it!'...
Well, that really got my mind spinning!! 

So I came up with an idea to get everyone I know to participate in a *virtual JOYride*, 
where we focus on JOY and share it to encourage one another - 
just the way we would if we all piled into a huge old convertible with the top down, 
the music blaring, with smiles on our faces as we headed down the road of life on an adventure...
The goal is to 'SEE the Joy, BE the Joy, SHARE the Joy!'

I launched it January 1, 2016, and here's how it works:
When you post photos of things that inspire you & make you grateful on social media, 
simply include the hashtag ‪#‎JOYride2016‬ !  
That's it! 
It works on facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, Tumblr 
(and a bunch more I don't even know about!)  
There's no sign up, no cost, 
and it's not to advertise, promote, market, get more traffic, or anything else. 
It's just to SHARE THE JOY! 
Join me, won't you?

Happy New Year, friends!

(btw, I am blogging again on my decor blog and my retail blog...)

9.12.2015

Desperately Seeking Sweet Sweater Pumpkins?!

It's THAT time of year again....
My stats are blowing up with visits from ALLLLL over,
from people searching for my original creation,
'Sweet  sweater pumpkins ' TM
Since 2007, they've been a HUGE hit!
Every fall, my blog is inundated with hits for the tutorial that I shared here years ago.
MANY people have bought it and made their own sweet pumpkins.

When I started up a new DIY seasonal home decor blog in the fall of 2012,
relocated the tutorial over there to sell it.
Now I offer it free!

You'll find my Sweet Sweater Pumpkin Tutorial HERE
If you want to see more of my original Sweet Sweater Pumpkins 
on HOMEWARDfound, click here!

May I just take a moment to thank you all 
for your continued kindness, appreciation, and good manners?
So many of you have generously shared the link to my tutorial over the years,
and shared my photos of my pumpkins and your photos of your own pumpkins.
I am so appreciative to those of you who have credited me - 
class act, ladies!

(There are the other kind of people, too, but let's just let them stay in their corner...


Sweet Sweater Pumpkins are my THING! 

 I created the idea of making them from sweaters in September of 2007
(as opposed to actually, you know, KNITTING them - because Deb don't knit!),
and shared them here on Hummadeedledee,
then made and sold them from 2008 until 2014,
at shows like Glitterfest, Farm Chicks, BarnHouse, Retreat Vintage Market,
and Remnants of the Past vintage & antique shows on the west coast.

I created a cashmere sweater pumpkin especially for Rachel Ashwell 
when she visited Remnants of the Past in the fall of 2010...
 The Queen of all things Shabby Chic pronounced them to be 'So dahling!

My pumpkins have been published in:


Fall, 2009 PORCH Magazine



Fall, 2011 FOLK Magazine


Fall, 2013 Better Homes & Garden's
special publication 'Halloween Tricks & Treats'


 Fall, 2013 Romantic Homes Magazine

Fall, 2013 Creating Vintage Charm Magazine


Fall, 2013 SheKnows Canada website

Product design, 'Sweet Sweater Pumpkin' name, and tutorial
Copyright Deb Kennedy 2007-2015
All Rights Reserved

8.20.2015

Walking Through the Valley...

I came here to write about something on my mind, 
and discovered that I never shared photos and news from our family reunion last July. 
LAST July. 
But a lot has happened since then, and I guess it all plays into the same story....
 You've probably heard 'The Lord's Prayer' at some point in your life, right?
I discovered a hidden meaning in one of the verses in that prayer over the past few months...
The line was 'Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death....'

I've been on that path before. I've had loved ones die, and had to face life without them after they were gone. But over the past few months, the experience that my Mom, my sisters, and I went through has re-defined the term 'The valley of the shadow of death' for me. Now, it doesn't refer to the aching loneliness, the lack of laughter and joy, the absence of the person you love and the deep ache in your soul after loss. No. Now, it refers to the achingly time-bending, unreal experience of waiting for someone you love to leave. The ticking clock and the passing minutes, hours, days as they slowly slip away from life toward death... with no control over the timeline.

That is when that 'shadow of death' comes.... 
it falls over everything, shading it in subdued hues with a chill in the air. BEFORE death, not after.
As my precious Daddy slowly slipped from this life into his eternal home in Heaven, following a quick and ferocious battle with cancer that proved futile, my Mother, my sisters Stacy and Linda, and I cared for him here at home. Over the course of a month, his condition worsened rapidly and we watched him deteriorate. His ability to communicate was lost far before he left us, and all we could do was hold his hand, kiss his cheek, and whisper words of love and devotion to him, in gratitude for all he has done for all of us. We let him know it was okay to stop fighting, and to go on to Heaven without us.

The horrific heartbreak was doing this over and over and over, every day and every night, knowing that it could be his last...... and then it wasn't. We repeated the words every single day, day after day, releasing him... going to bed at night, trusting the hospice nurses to call us if anything changed, and rising in the early mornings with dread. The day my sister Linda had to return home to Wisconsin before he passed was one of the saddest days of my life, because she knew she would never see her Daddy alive again. My heart broke for her.

And then, it came...

On Easter Morning, just before sunrise, my Dad breathed his last breath here on Earth and simultaneously his first in Heaven. He chose a glorious day to make his journey, a day that we will never be able to be sad on, that we will never lose the ultimate meaning of. This Jewish man who became a Christian chose an Easter Morning immediately following Passover to meet his Savior face to face..... how amazing is that?
But the memories.... ah, the memories of the last year and times before that, of such special precious moments we've spent as a family.... they carried us through the last part of death's shadow. Photos of our reunion and drawings by grand- and great-grandchildren filled the wall next to his bed, reminding us and showing the hospice nursing staff just what a remarkable family we have with this man as our Papa. They didn't know him before the pain and silence and waning energy... they didn't see his smile and humor and gentleness. The photos showed them that.
As he went to Heaven that beautiful Easter morning, the sun rose over the mountains in the East - and the shadow of death was lifted from our hearts and our home. He, like his Savior Jesus, is not dead, but he lives! And he lives on in our memories and our hearts as we continue to walk out of the valley of death.
I am beyond grateful for the blessing of having had our family reunion last July.... of almost every member of our family gathering together to celebrate Mom's birthday and the importance and love of each other.
That Dad was there to enjoy those special moments, and that none of us even suspected that he wouldn't beat the cancer just as he had the heart disease and the kidney failure in years prior. That he wouldn't be with us just a year later now seems inconceivable to me....
Those days will never be repeated, but their meaning leads us forward to create more memories together.
Thank you, Dad, for everything.
And I know..... "I will always be with you." There's more to that story, too... 

 The loss of his presence here in the house, and in our family, is still fresh, new, raw, and painful. We still cry and ache and miss him deeply. We know we will for years to come. His mark on the house, on us, is everywhere. My Mom is a woman of faith and strength, and she amazes me every day as I watch her learn to navigate this world without the man who was her everything. Four of his five kids were somehow able to stand and honor him at his service, to speak through the pain and tears so that we could share our remarkable Dad with those gathered to mourn his loss... his influence on us was that profound. For me, this man, who didn't HAVE to, became the Daddy I so desperately yearned for and needed.  
He loved me and healed the broken places in my heart that other men damaged.

My sweet friend Julia, a fellow cast member at Disneyland, 
took the family photos at the Park on the day of our family reunion trip there.
I am so very grateful. 

9.29.2014

Surrender...


It’s no use. I can’t fight it any more. It’s useless to ignore what is right in front of me, so I am throwing in the towel and surrendering. Summer’s over. Fall is here. We may or may not get a resurgence of the wonderful sunny hot weather known as an 'Indian Summer' – it’s been known to happen – but even if we do, it’s still Fall.

It’s not that I don’t like Fall. I do
Fall is like a gorgeous redhead, her russet tresses blowing in the wind. Her amber eyes reflect the late afternoon sun, and glow with the depth of flames in a fire at days’ end. She tantalizes me with the scent of fresh rain on fallen leaves. She wakes me up to see the golden glow of a misty morning, when the sun sneaks along behind the fog. She tempts me with warm afternoons that melt into cool dusks and starry skies.
I just wasn’t ready for Summer to go yet.
Summer is a caramel blonde, drifting on a soft breeze… warm and sunny, filled with energy, playful and distracting. She coaxed me into hours of lying or sitting on the beach, telling me it was OK to write articles with my toes in the sand or research projects while sitting on my porch swing. She crafted a careful romance with her 5 AM sunrises, bringing me sunbeams that stole into my window and landed on my cheek to awaken me along with the birds singing in the trees. She filled my days with brilliance and warmth, and ended them with orange sherbet-colored sunsets at 11 PM, wrapping me in her embrace. One day she was here, and the next….. just a whisper.
They are my friends, the Seasons, and since I only get to see them once a year, I like to spend as much time with each one as I can. Time seems to fly so quickly, though, and we never really finish our visits before each needs to take her leave.
Except Winter. She always shows up earlier than invited and overstays her welcome. She's an old woman with scraggly long gray hair and bland, disheveled clothes who has no where else to go. She's cold and distant and inhospitable. I really dread her visits because it's just hard to connect with her - maybe that's why Fall's arrival gives me pause. I just know that Winter will come knocking next....